We all crave connection.
Or as Brene Brown would say, we are “wired for connection”. To go a step even further than that would be to say that we are all connected and that it is only in the dissolving of separateness that we truly start to experience this as our ultimate reality, a reality that WE chose to create.
Let’s take a step back from the Universal principles for a moment though and connect to our human. We are born connected – to our mother and father, family system at large, the environment around us, our soul’s purpose and something greater than ourselves. Throughout our journey, however, we start to feel disconnected more than we do connected. We start to feel disconnected to our purpose, others, the Universe and sadly, ourselves. We start to identify more to our ego and our pain body, than we do with our soul and love.
This became my reality, the disconnection and illusion of being separate and so three months ago I set off on a solo adventure through South East Asia with the ultimate goal being self-discovery and expanding my connection to self, others and the Universe. The thing I came to realise in a deeper way, is that connection comes in different forms, and the type of connection we crave changes depending on the reality we have created for ourselves in that moment. Both we and our society convince us that it is hard to come back into the connectedness that we once knew.. but what if I tell you it’s not.. it’s our natural rhythm and all we need to do is shift our state..?
There are a multitude of ways we can shift our state and “re-connect”, I’ll start you off with a few examples but I encourage you to take a moment for you, to close your eyes, connect with your breath and feel into your body and ASK your body what it needs in this moment, because it already knows and it just wants to be heard, promise..
Connect to the Earth.
Go and jump in the ocean! Admire a flower. Eat soul nourishing organic, high vibrational foods. Walk in nature. Create art from the flowers and the plants around you. Explore the ancient wisdom in crystals. The list goes on and on..
Connect to others.
One amazing way to deepen your connection to others is through conscious, active listening. Somewhere along the way we forgot the art of listening and learnt how to respond instead. If you want to connect with someone on a deeper level, hold space for them to share from the heart without trying to problem solve, add your own story, put your version of reality on their version. When you turn up for someone and just send them love instead of all these other elements your connection will naturally deepen and expand.
Connect to play.
When was the last time you allowed yourself to do something just because it was FUN!? Play is the portal to joy and has the power to unlock serious happiness within your soul. Try painting without expectations, having a dance party for one and truly feeling into the music, playing a game with a friend, joining in on a social game of your favourite sport, sing your heart out at karaoke, learn to knit, scrapbook, bead… just play! It’s a vibe, I promise.
Connect to your purpose.
I encourage you to head to your happy place, no matter where that is for you and to just sit and ground yourself there. Take a moment to pause and look around, truly take it all in and arrive in the present moment. Once you arrive its time to get your journal out and ask yourself what makes you HAPPIEST in this world? Allow yourself to free write and don’t let yourself stop until you have a list of at least 20 things. Once you finish that list, I want you to ask yourself – “if I knew I could not fail, what would I do with my life?” Once you eliminate fear, what light is left in your dreams? The answer to this question will inch you closer to working out your why. Another great tool I use is of course Numerology! The sacred universal patterns that exists in your chart give us so much insight into the energetic expression we are meant to embody in this life. Dive into your chart for some hints if you feel a little lost!
Connect to the Universe.
We are the entire universe, its within you and around you. All of life is deeply connected. Explore it, by being it. Be still and feel it. It’s as simple and as complicated as that.
Connect to yourself.
Lay down somewhere safe and cosy. Close your eyes. Cross your arms across your chest to reach your shoulders and give yourself a giant hug. Hold yourself. Send yourself love. Feel into the difference this small gesture makes in your being. Now breathe deeply into your being. Breathe all the way down into your toes, feel the breath flowing through your body, nourishing you and calming you with every breath you take, reminding you of your connectedness with everything that exists in the whole entire universe. Stay here for as long as you need. Once you return to the present moment, thank yourself for the self-love and write in your journal about your experience.
Ultimately though, I really just want you to hear and to know that everyone one you meet craves connection. You are not alone in the longing to belong, to feel seen, heard, valued and loved. Let’s make connection the new norm.. Go connect today! Let me know how it goes.
With love,
Brearna
